Having a big family requires all the time in the world and frankly 24 hours just doesn't cut it. Between cleaning, cooking, kids, and school, finding time with your hubby can be such a challenge however not impossible. I've never really been the type of girl who likes going to the movies or staying at hotels specially when I pay rent to have my own place (HA! pleasee). I'm more about the thought that's put in the time spent together. While building a home with my husband, we realized that we had to put our responsibilities before fun but not necessarily sacrifice all the fun. Finding a babysitter can be such tedious work and thankfully I have an amazing mother who would watch the kids if we had decide on going out. Even though my mother has always been a wonderful help, it felt like curfew and lets be honest who the heck wants a curfew at 27 years old?. Time with your hubby needs to be on your priority list, if you want a good relationship. (Everyone will have their own view on relationships and how they should be, this will obviously be mine).
I want to break this down to be able to stress the importance of quality time. I will take it back ten years to where it all started. During our dating stages, we spoke about normal dating conversations, how in the future we would still be doing the same things, that life would be easier on our own (lol) and not let anything or anyone come between us. Being in love was suppose to be the most important thing to us! Fast forward, a few years later, everything has already changed, we are both busy all the time with work (we don't even have the same schedule) and the bills keep pilling up, not to mention we have three kids to care for. Finding time for each other seems impossible, I'm tired all the time and I have so much to do. Now our plans and priorities have shifted and the plans that were made in the past don't even seem to be as important. We then start questioning everything when the relationship doesn't work out and blame the current situations because we are blinded by our daily routine to realize where the problem really is, "Quality time"! How do you manage to stay in love with someone who you don't even have the time to spend with? Exactly my point!!! You can tell me you love him and I will understand that but you tell me you in love and no time spent, I can NOT understand that (and I'm one of the most understandable person out there) Spending time with your partner is super important because that time is the reason your home is home! Not the couches, or the 60" TV, its all the love and memories that took you far enough to buy the couches and the 60'' TV and THEN call it HOME. I twisted the story to explain my view and now that I've painted a picture, lets move forward.
I think that if you plan your day ahead you will be more likely to accomplish more, then if you just went with it. I say that in all aspects of life because if not, you just look like a chicken with your head cut off. Even though my husband and I can do anything from cleaning, cooking, and errands together, the way I manage quality time for him is; having a reasonable bed time for our children. Having a bedtime for your children is as equality as important as having quality time with your hubby and both have their perks; alone time for us and rest for them :) Having kids is the greatest blessing and you have to admit that your life is based around their schedule POINT BLANK! So why not work your way around it :) Since sleep is essential for kids to focus in school and their future depends on their education, they will have my full support. After speaking to my kids Dr. regarding regulating the kids bedtime and listening to his input, we established that 8:00 PM was a reasonable and healthy bedtime . My quality time depends on my kids bedtime. It does not always have to be while the kids are asleep because we like to involve the kids in a lot of what we do however for the sake of the post I gravitate towards the quality time.
What you do in your quality time is up to you and its your business. In my opinion, people change and that includes your partner. Not that its a bad thing it simply means that you need to continue to get to know that person. Throughout the years new trends, colors, activities are introduced and our liking might change. Asking what your favorite color is to your man isn't the ideal everyday question. Why not use your quality time for that instead of just laying down watching a movie (not that its a bad thing because cuddling is so amazing <3). Here are some of the things that I enjoy during our quality time.
I like to get creative and make up games and rules for the night depending on what we are doing but we always have fun. What better way to get to know each other than a question game. What I do first is decide on the type of questions to ask then create the game. Every time will be different and made up on the spot so just be creative and go with the flow. Once the type of questions are picked, I pick how many questions will be in the game. Remember the questions are only conversation starters because the point of it is CONVERSATION, to expand your knowledge on one another, so don't get carried away on too many questions. Question types can include: couples, him/her, favorite love, hypothetical, intimate, etc. Here is a an example of each of the question type so you can have an idea. You can make up the questions or search them up on Google.
Hypothetical ; What would you do if you had one day to live?
Intimate ; What are your priorities in a relationship?
him/ Her ; .What is your ideal date night?
Favorite love ; What is your favorite color?
Couples ; What is your favorite memory of me?
Once you have your questions picked, write them in pieces of paper or even index cards. Place them in a bowl and take turns picking questions to answer. Make sure both are involved.. Take turns asking the questions and who ever is asking the question, answers last. Make your own rules and the games instructions. Make it fun, make it memorable!! Play soft music in the background while talking, some wine for those who drink and serve some goodies. I also like to buy scented candles, that way the smell will remind me of that specific night and even our quality time in general. Its a perfect date night, in your own home and the best part is no babysitter and no curfew :)
I think that if you plan your day ahead you will be more likely to accomplish more, then if you just went with it. I say that in all aspects of life because if not, you just look like a chicken with your head cut off. Even though my husband and I can do anything from cleaning, cooking, and errands together, the way I manage quality time for him is; having a reasonable bed time for our children. Having a bedtime for your children is as equality as important as having quality time with your hubby and both have their perks; alone time for us and rest for them :) Having kids is the greatest blessing and you have to admit that your life is based around their schedule POINT BLANK! So why not work your way around it :) Since sleep is essential for kids to focus in school and their future depends on their education, they will have my full support. After speaking to my kids Dr. regarding regulating the kids bedtime and listening to his input, we established that 8:00 PM was a reasonable and healthy bedtime . My quality time depends on my kids bedtime. It does not always have to be while the kids are asleep because we like to involve the kids in a lot of what we do however for the sake of the post I gravitate towards the quality time.
What you do in your quality time is up to you and its your business. In my opinion, people change and that includes your partner. Not that its a bad thing it simply means that you need to continue to get to know that person. Throughout the years new trends, colors, activities are introduced and our liking might change. Asking what your favorite color is to your man isn't the ideal everyday question. Why not use your quality time for that instead of just laying down watching a movie (not that its a bad thing because cuddling is so amazing <3). Here are some of the things that I enjoy during our quality time.
I like to get creative and make up games and rules for the night depending on what we are doing but we always have fun. What better way to get to know each other than a question game. What I do first is decide on the type of questions to ask then create the game. Every time will be different and made up on the spot so just be creative and go with the flow. Once the type of questions are picked, I pick how many questions will be in the game. Remember the questions are only conversation starters because the point of it is CONVERSATION, to expand your knowledge on one another, so don't get carried away on too many questions. Question types can include: couples, him/her, favorite love, hypothetical, intimate, etc. Here is a an example of each of the question type so you can have an idea. You can make up the questions or search them up on Google.
Hypothetical ; What would you do if you had one day to live?
Intimate ; What are your priorities in a relationship?
him/ Her ; .What is your ideal date night?
Favorite love ; What is your favorite color?
Couples ; What is your favorite memory of me?
Once you have your questions picked, write them in pieces of paper or even index cards. Place them in a bowl and take turns picking questions to answer. Make sure both are involved.. Take turns asking the questions and who ever is asking the question, answers last. Make your own rules and the games instructions. Make it fun, make it memorable!! Play soft music in the background while talking, some wine for those who drink and serve some goodies. I also like to buy scented candles, that way the smell will remind me of that specific night and even our quality time in general. Its a perfect date night, in your own home and the best part is no babysitter and no curfew :)
I hope everyone enjoys this post and if you need help coming up with the questions, feel free to ask me :) I love this kind of things!
What are some of the things you enjoy doing during your quality time? Share your answers with me on the comment section below on this post, like and share with others who would enjoy this!
*Stay tune every Mondays*
Krystal *-*
XOXOXO
What are some of the things you enjoy doing during your quality time? Share your answers with me on the comment section below on this post, like and share with others who would enjoy this!
*Stay tune every Mondays*
Krystal *-*
XOXOXO