There comes a point in life where your view changes drastically. The older you get the wiser you become and it's something you won't realize until it actually happens. I believe that as a mother I've seen the transition of that change especially when it comes to my children.
I remember growing up my mother seemed to know everything. I have to admit that I absolutely hated it. how could she call it before it actually happened? She knew where I was and what I was up to at all times. It was hard keeping things from her and trust me, not because of me, she just knew! I asked myself all the question like, How the heck did she know? Who was snitching me out? I mean there was no way she could know everything, could she? It wasn't like I was doing anything bad, I just wasn't exactly following house rules. My mom was never one of those controlling moms (thank God) or anything of that sort, she simply had rules and demanded respect. She wasn't one who wanted to know everything or even really in my business. I respected my mom and valued her opinions till this day, plus this woman knew everything (I was scared lol). My mother has always been pretty involved in my life in the sense of talking to me and giving me advice. She never told me who I can and cannot have as a friend, she always gave me her most honest advice when it came to friends, boys and decisions, with my best interest in mind. Even though I might have not liked it at the time, she was always right and always had my back.
As a teenager I had many friends, some which I'm still friends with today. Even though I had a decent group of friends not all of them were genuine and Of course my mom knew before I did. I remember this one specific friend, we were pretty close friends. In this blog we will call her Rose. My mom use to tell me that trust was my weakness, I would trust too much too fast, I really saw the good in everyone and of course I trusted Rose. I use to get so mad when mom would tell me that trust was a weakness, but how could I?, when it was true. One day my mom noticed something that I obviously had missed and she needed to talk to me. My mother brought up Rose and brought up her concerns but didn't specify what they were so of course I said something along the lines like "Rose would never back stab me'' and how she was my "bff" blah blah blah... Now, before I continue with the story. I have to say that there should be a fine line between the privacy of the conversations you have with your mother and your friends. For example; if your mother is concerned enough in regards to a friend and brings it to your attention, you should NEVER tell your friend "oh my mom said this, this and that about you! It's not because "mom" is talking bad about your friend, it's simply means that your mom picked up on something you missed while choosing a friend plus its a line you shouldn't cross because your mom is just looking out for you and being a real friend! My mother never talked bad about my friends, her concerns sounded more like this: "Krystal, be careful what you say to your friends because not everyone has the same intentions" then it goes from there. Back to the story, remember how I said my mom knew everything? Well about week later it was confirmed that my mom was right! I don't want to go into details about what happened to respect the privacy of Rose and the people involved plus it's not what this post is about (its about mothers knowing best in case you missed it :) but I can say it was a general situation in a teenagers life. I still kept Rose as a friend (my meaning of a friend has changed) however I knew better this time around. That was the day I learned that those who you are willing to take a bullet for, are the ones holding the gun (one of my favorite quotes). Mothers do know best because those advises come with experience, so when your mother tells you something, you better be listening.
Now that I am a mother, I can relate to all the things my mom use to say. Even though my kids are not teenagers yet, you will be surprise with some of the things that are introduced to kids at their age. I find myself calling it before they actually happen not that I claim to know everything, I just do as my mother use to and still does today and that is talk to my kids. My view in just about everything has changed drastically, even though something's took longer than others, I've learned from all my experiences and it has made me wiser. Not many appreciate their mothers and the advice they bring but I love my mother very much and I appreciate the mother I have been blessed with.
I remember growing up my mother seemed to know everything. I have to admit that I absolutely hated it. how could she call it before it actually happened? She knew where I was and what I was up to at all times. It was hard keeping things from her and trust me, not because of me, she just knew! I asked myself all the question like, How the heck did she know? Who was snitching me out? I mean there was no way she could know everything, could she? It wasn't like I was doing anything bad, I just wasn't exactly following house rules. My mom was never one of those controlling moms (thank God) or anything of that sort, she simply had rules and demanded respect. She wasn't one who wanted to know everything or even really in my business. I respected my mom and valued her opinions till this day, plus this woman knew everything (I was scared lol). My mother has always been pretty involved in my life in the sense of talking to me and giving me advice. She never told me who I can and cannot have as a friend, she always gave me her most honest advice when it came to friends, boys and decisions, with my best interest in mind. Even though I might have not liked it at the time, she was always right and always had my back.
As a teenager I had many friends, some which I'm still friends with today. Even though I had a decent group of friends not all of them were genuine and Of course my mom knew before I did. I remember this one specific friend, we were pretty close friends. In this blog we will call her Rose. My mom use to tell me that trust was my weakness, I would trust too much too fast, I really saw the good in everyone and of course I trusted Rose. I use to get so mad when mom would tell me that trust was a weakness, but how could I?, when it was true. One day my mom noticed something that I obviously had missed and she needed to talk to me. My mother brought up Rose and brought up her concerns but didn't specify what they were so of course I said something along the lines like "Rose would never back stab me'' and how she was my "bff" blah blah blah... Now, before I continue with the story. I have to say that there should be a fine line between the privacy of the conversations you have with your mother and your friends. For example; if your mother is concerned enough in regards to a friend and brings it to your attention, you should NEVER tell your friend "oh my mom said this, this and that about you! It's not because "mom" is talking bad about your friend, it's simply means that your mom picked up on something you missed while choosing a friend plus its a line you shouldn't cross because your mom is just looking out for you and being a real friend! My mother never talked bad about my friends, her concerns sounded more like this: "Krystal, be careful what you say to your friends because not everyone has the same intentions" then it goes from there. Back to the story, remember how I said my mom knew everything? Well about week later it was confirmed that my mom was right! I don't want to go into details about what happened to respect the privacy of Rose and the people involved plus it's not what this post is about (its about mothers knowing best in case you missed it :) but I can say it was a general situation in a teenagers life. I still kept Rose as a friend (my meaning of a friend has changed) however I knew better this time around. That was the day I learned that those who you are willing to take a bullet for, are the ones holding the gun (one of my favorite quotes). Mothers do know best because those advises come with experience, so when your mother tells you something, you better be listening.
Now that I am a mother, I can relate to all the things my mom use to say. Even though my kids are not teenagers yet, you will be surprise with some of the things that are introduced to kids at their age. I find myself calling it before they actually happen not that I claim to know everything, I just do as my mother use to and still does today and that is talk to my kids. My view in just about everything has changed drastically, even though something's took longer than others, I've learned from all my experiences and it has made me wiser. Not many appreciate their mothers and the advice they bring but I love my mother very much and I appreciate the mother I have been blessed with.
Mother, I would like to take the time and tell you that I miss you so much and I love you more than words could express. Thank you for all you have done for me and all those advice given which I will be using with my kids. You are a precious jewel and a queen in my eyes <3
My mother is and will always be the perfect example of the kind of mother I want to be to my children. My mother always knew best!
Sincerely,
Krystal *-*
XOXOXO
Sincerely,
Krystal *-*
XOXOXO